Yesterday, I learned a new approach of reaching out to friends. The answer to my question in my last blog posting is this: Let go of your ego. I repeat. Let go of your ego! All this time, the reason why I struggled with people in general was because of my pride and ego. I always thought that I was a somebody... their savior... But I was wrong... When you want something so bad and you don't know what else to do, I had to surrender my pride and admit that I needed help. It was hard but it was a very humbling moment for me. So what did I do? First, I sent a simple text message to a bunch (40+) of my friends saying: "Hey, I need your help. Can I call you?" Next thing I know, I started receiving text messages and phone calls. So when chatting with my friends, this was how the conversation went:
"Hey Jerry, thanks for replying/calling back. I'm going to make this a quick call because I know you're really busy. So I was wondering if you knew anyone who would like to make $400 by helping me with my legal insurance business. Are you familiar with legal insurance? Well, you know about car and life insurance right? You pay to protect your car or your life, and legal insurance is the same thing but you pay to protect your rights, and it deals with anything related to legal issues, legal advice, if you get pulled over by a cop, need a lawyer, go to court, and things like that. So I'm looking for 3 people, do you know anyone?"
I was looking for either a yes or no. If they said yes, I replied: "Great! Can you give them my number or ask them if you can give me their number so we can get in touch asap."
If no: "That's fine. Can you at least pass the word around for me in case someone you know is interested? Thanks."
Some asked questions and I replied naturally as so:
1) What do you have to do for this?
Why are you interested? Well if you know anyone who is, can you give them my number and I will tell them the details.
2) What kind of people are you looking for?
I'm looking for highly motivated, committed, and most importantly, coachable people. Do you know anyone?
3) Can you email me?
I'm sorry I don't have time for that because I'm looking for people asap. So if you could just pass the word around for me, that would be great. Thanks.
After each conversation, I felt really good inside. Why? Because I didn't feel guilty or rejected since I wasn't expecting anything from them. I have been doing sales most of my life, and I've been used to pushing what I want into people's faces and expect them to give me what I want. Time and time again, I received rejection after rejection... I didn't feel good inside because I wasn't totally honest with my friends. It was hard because in network marketing, it is my responsibility to make sure I give my friends the right information without "vomiting" on them. The truth is people sense if you're hiding something from them, and I hated that feeling. I wanted to be honest but I wanted to keep my information short and sweet.
This new mindset and approach is still new for me. I don't know yet where it will take me, but all I know is that it has changed me, even though it seems so small. What's next for me?